A severe illness, the death of a loved one or the separation from the partner can bring us into a deep hole. Even those who suddenly lose their jobs are forced to cope with this personal crisis. Similarly, athletes need resilience when an injury makes it impossible to compete in the competition they have been training for months.
Persons with marked resilience can overcome fatalities faster than less resilient persons because of their psychic ability not to break in serious crises. They cope with personal setbacks and professional crises and sometimes even emerge stronger from them. Those who are resilient are not protected against misfortune, but they recover faster than others from blows of fate. Instead of feeling bad luck, resilient people say “This time it did not work out, but next time I can do it!”
What distinguishes resilient people?
People with pronounced resilience often have very specific characteristics:
Optimism: A positive view of things helps to deal with crises. Resilient people also feel sadness or anger when something bad happens to them. But they are confident and know: Now it is difficult, but I will get out of this situation stronger.
Confidence: Those who have a high level of resilience believe in themselves, their strengths and abilities. Self-confidence makes it easier to find solutions and not stop, but to continue on the path.
Seeking help: Not every problem can be solved alone. Sometimes you need friends or professionals to help you. Good if the partner and the family are there or support therapists. Resilient persons are often communicative and faster ready to accept help from others or to actively seek advice.
Realism: Resilience is associated with the ability to analyze oneself and realistically assess one’s personal life situation. Are the set goals achievable? Do I orient myself to my own wishes or those of others? Resilient people recognize what is needed to change a situation in their favor.
Acceptance: Instead of pondering what they could have done differently, resilient people find their situation: what has happened has happened. Who accepts things as they are, can allow feelings and actively deal with them without seeing themselves as victims.
Resilience can be trained
According to experts, most people have resilience. Because like a muscle, it grows the more it is used. True to the motto “What does not kill me, makes me stronger,” resilient people react to problems such as standing sticks: They manage to shimmy from every low and look ahead. Those who have never had any bad experiences, mastered challenges or suffered setbacks have less resilience. With every crisis we encounter and master, we can train our resilience.