Acknowledge it! Surely on more than one time, you have said something that you later regretted. And I’m sure that on more than one time you’ve also thought about what you said after saying it. The problem is not what you have said but what the other person has heard.
Here I leave 5 phrases that you should never say to anyone:
1. I don’t care
What others understand: leave me alone, I have better things to do than listen to you.
Tell him that you are interested in what he has to say but that now is not a good time to do it. When you have a free time you invite him to tell you what he wanted to tell you, but it is important to clarify to that person why he could not or want to hear it when he tried to tell you.
2. You’re wrong
What others understand: you do not know how to do it. You are stupid. You are useless.
“I think you could do better, according to my way of seeing it, my opinion is different, I would recommend it. “What a difference, right? Next time try to change the conversation you will see changes.
3. I told you right
What others understand: have you seen how you have done wrong ? You’ve asked for it, I’m better than you.
Reflect and think the meaning, that is, the reason for your sentence. Are you going to bring something positive to that person? On the contrary, you need your help more than ever. As the saying goes, do not make firewood from the fallen tree, and work for that tree to cling to the earth again and flourish. No matter what and how it happened, the only important thing here is that you can give your help, and there is someone who needs it. Are you willing to give it to him?
4. That should be easy
What others understand: that’s easy, and if you can not do it, you’re useless.
The level of complexity is perceived differently by each person. Some people have a lot of skill for some things and other people who have the expertise for others. And if you are telling someone that what they are doing is easy, you are discriminating their skill to do it.
Review from the outside can be easy, but things do not feel the same when you are the one inside. And if not, think if you would like someone to imagine what you are doing, saying that it seems easy. It’s not nice, right? Think about it next time before telling anyone.
5. You cannot do it
What others understand: no matter what you try, you will not get it, so why try?
Why do you lead someone to failure? I can understand that you do not want your friend to sink and that you feel the duty to tell him, but then I ask you: who gives you the right to judge what is good or bad for others? What if failure is one more step towards its growth?
You must support friends who dare, who undertake, who risk getting what they want. Do not feed your fears, feed your dreams.